The ties that bind
- Kaitlan
- Jun 27, 2019
- 2 min read
The meaning of that phrase is "the shared belief or other factor that links people together".
Religion, politics, views, music, movies, food. All things that bind you to other people.
A lot of times, there's comfort in knowing that there is something in the world that ties you to other groups of people in such a close and intimate way.
Other times, those ties hold you down.
I find myself coming across more and more people who are bound to something or someone that doesn't benefit them in any way. I find it really hard to see someone in a situation like this, especially when they don't even realize that they're being held back. Being tied down causes fear, and some of us are like wounded animals when we're afraid. Trapped and hostile. Which generally causes a bad situation for you and everyone else around you.
Bottom line though, is that shit happens too quick for you to not say what's on your mind at all times. I'm not saying disregard the consequences of your actions, I'm just saying that if you don't get it off your chest, you'll never be able to breathe. T
I'm not in that mindset anymore that I'm going to live forever and nothing will ever fade. For some, life stops in the middle of a sentence, in the middle of a thought, with plans that will never happen. And that alone is a scary enough thought. Being tethered to something that makes me miserable comes in a close second.
So, my call to action is for you to disconnect for a little bit. Evaluate every aspect of your life and start to make the difficult (or maybe not so difficult choices) of what you need to stop being bound by.
You need to stop blaming this, that and the other for things that have happened. It's very easy to play the victim. Everyone wants to be right, everyone wants a little sympathy here and there, and that's fine. But there comes a point where you have to let it go.
In my humble, honest, hoe opinion life is much more rewarding when you cut yourself free from all those things keeping you anchored down in the same place.
I will say this though, sometimes there are things worth being tied to. You just have to be brave enough to distinguish them. Be tied to your dreams, pursue them endlessly and tirelessly, because no one else is going to do that for you, duh.
Be tied to people who treat you in ways you only ever imagined, even if there's nothing but distance between you and only your cell phone service that brings you together. Life is far too short for you to settle for people who don't make every moment feel like a religious experience.
Tie yourself to gratitude because once you start being grateful for every little thing you have to be grateful for, weirdly enough, life starts going better than you could have hoped for.
I'll keep it short this week, I'm far too tired to keep on preachin'.
That's that on that.
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