The Terrible Twenties

Let's keep it trill, someone fed us the idea that our twenties would be the time of our fucking lives. Who was it? Who sold us that overpriced, overrated idea? Tell them I just want to talk.

For many, our twenties are a rough time. Emphasis on rough. But let's talk about it. People have glamorized the idea of being in your twenties when in actuality, it's one of the weirdest times of your life.

You're in the awkward transition period between leaving high school and being with your parents to college, being on your own, paying your own bills (my heart hurt just thinking about my car note), finding a full-time job (it's a bitch), your first real relationship, etc. Fact of the matter is that shit is tough. Your twenties will have you feeling rough, tough, busted, tore up from the floor up and a lot of other ways.

You're at that point in your life where you really don't know what to do with yourself. Trust me, I'm living that every day and it's slowly giving me PTSD.

Your twenties are a time of self-discovery. You will learn so much about yourself. I've learned a lot about myself while I was in college, and as it turns out, I actually like the person I became and am becoming. You'll find out what you want from a career, what kind of lifestyle you want to live, what you're looking for in a partner, ya know, typical self-discovery shit.

This is a time of learning, and sucky as it seems, it's a time of struggle. I know a lot of you are thinking "GAH DAMN, ALL I DO IS STRUGGLE", and to that I say "WELL BITCH ME TOO!". We really all out here struggling together, we all in the same boat and if us young folx can unite on anything at all, it's struggle.

So many of us, are broke. I need some damn shmoney, and I know Cardi is catching a lot of heat for it, but these bills got me wanting to rob people, too. Nah I'm playing. I don't think I'll resort to highway robbery just yet. So many of us, don't have healthcare coverage, which is just some foolery if you ask me. We don't have stability, we don't get paid enough, we're drowning under mountains of debt, we have jobs that we HATE. Like, what is this life?

So, how the fuck are we supposed to survive it? How do you find hope in a world that looks so hopeless? People aren't trying to save the environment, the government is a tire fire, healthcare is looked at as a privilege rather than a natural-born right, what is even going on.

Well, I've compiled a list of ways to survive your twenties, without losing your god-forsaken mind. Take notes, people. Class is in session.

• Fail as much as you can

You probably read that and thought "what dis bitch just say?". But you read that right heffa. Fail as often as you can. Why, you ask? Because duh, you're not going to luck out and find the job of your dreams at 21, hell, you might not even find it by 27. Your failures are a stepping stone to somewhere better. And as HARD as it is to not be discouraged by them, you have to pull something good from it. Trust me, you're talking to someone who spent the better half of college and post-college life, failing. I only feel like I've recently started pulling out some wins #THANKTHELORT

I'm sure I have a long road of failures before me, too. While, that sucks real hard, I can only imagine the wonderful things that are going to come from those failures. We talked about rejection last time, so if you don't know what I'm talking about, refer to previous blog post, pls & thx.

• In the words of the great Billy Joel, You can't be everything you wanna be before your time

In other words, chill tf out. Everything you want from life is not going to be delivered to your front door by FedEx. Imagine this, you get everything you ever imagined at 24 years old. You've peaked. What do you have to look forward to for the rest of your life? You get where I'm going with this? Don't act like you don't, ya know damn well I'm right.

• "I know I'm not the only one" - Sam Smith

You think you're the only person that has no godly idea what they're doing? I got some news hunny. Nobody knows what's going on. We are literally ALL winging it outchea. Check this though, just because you don't know what you're doing, doesn't mean you can't do it. Sounds ridiculous, right? Sike. I had no idea what I was doing in college but guess what, I still got dat degree!!!! I have no idea what I'm doing now, sometimes I honestly believe I'm just here for a laugh, but I know that despite that confusion now, I'm still going to end up with all the things I want to end up with. That's all I gotta say about that!

• Go wild

Don't take that so seriously. Don't get smashed off your ass every night. Don't get high out of your skull every chance you get. I just mean that this is a time of discovery. Shit will be much different when you have a career or a long-term partner or a family, so you better put your balls to the wall while you can chile. Travel, experiment, love hard, try something new, learn to love yourself, see the world and everything it has to offer. Because it's offering a lot. There's a certain spontaneity that comes with being in your twenties and I don't think you should take that for granted. Youth doesn't last forever, it goes just as quickly as it comes.

• Shut your mouth

I really do mean that. While the whole world is not out to get you, some people are. Stop broadcasting every move you make on social media. Not only do people not care, they try to downplay shit that you do. Everyone ain't your friend! Me on the other hand, I am. I want to see you winning, I want to hear about every accomplishment, no matter how small or insignificant YOU THINK it is. Baby sometimes getting out of bed is the biggest accomplishment of your day and that's fine, I'll drink to that.

• Make friends with your parents

They aren't getting any younger. Most of us were lucky enough to get parents who loved us and took care of us like parents should. I know not everyone was that fortunate. But now it's time to appreciate your parents as more than parents. They are their own separate people, they have their own lives, learn something about them. They will not be around forever. It's weird to find out that your parents are actually cool. They've literally been there and done that. Now that you can fend for yourself, it's the time to find that out about them.

• Save some money

For the love of everything good in this world, you need a rainy day fund. I know you're like, "didn't you just tell me to travel and put my balls to the wall and stuff"? Yes I did, and what? Just do as I say, I know what I'm bout. I know that this is waaaaay easier said than done, trust me. Feels like my bank account is forever dwindling, but even if I could slip a crisp twenty in that savings account every week, that's better than nothing imo.

• Your network is your net worth

I ain't lying, you never never never know what one conversation could turn into. I learned that errybody knows errybody out here, so all I gotta do is bat these lashes and turn on that Kaitlan Darby charm, boom, connection. Never know when you'll need them and vice versa. You better push that anti-social attitude into the corner for a hot minute and force yourself to be friendly, I ain't playin.

• Always be humble, finding a job ain't easy, make time for your family, stop comparing yourself to others, exercise, pay your dues and get some damn sleep.

There was your free game for the week, you don't have to take everyone's advice but since we going through it together, you should damn sure take mine. You know I'm here for you. Take care of your damn selves and as always, keep it trill.

Peace out girl scout