Ch-ch-changes

Christmas time is here, feel the laughter and cheer. Except I’m not feeling it. I’m feeling rather blue, which is a bummer because I love Christmas. It’s a favorite holiday of mine. The music, the lights, the food, what’s not to love? Well I can think of one thing for sure, that bomb ass seasonal depression. Add that right on top of my clinic depression and you’ve got yourself a Christmas cocktail for disaster (dinner with the family should be fun this year!).

I know I've been away for a while, but I've been working on me, I hope you can forgive me.

But it’s not all bad is it? No, it’s almost never as bad as I originally think it is. I’m just dramatic. It’s actually been a pretty decent holiday so far aside from the bad days that I have are just really bad. But lately, they’re pretty far between. The only thing that is really bad is the amount of money I’ve been spending, but money comes and goes.

So instead of talking shit on the bad parts of life, moping and lingering on things I can’t control I’ll talk about something else, something that I know everyone struggles with…CHANGE.

I don’t think anyone likes to deal with it at first, but it’s something that will affect us for the rest of our lives, so let’s chat about it.

IMO, change only freaks us out so much because there’s so much uncertainty that is associated with it. Of course no one likes to fall out of routine, no one likes being uncomfortable. But I mean come on people, how can you ever grow if you’re never out of your comfort zone?! How can those little roots of yours ever dig into fresh, new ground if you never want to move out of your current spot? Riddle me that.

I understand that not all changes are ones that you asked for, sometimes they’re just something that happens. Either way it’s something we have to learn to deal with. Sometimes life is just going swimmingly when all of a sudden, you feel like a fish out of water. I’d recommend handling it a step at a time just like anything else. Don’t let the stress of it cause more issues for you than necessary. Try to stay healthy, get a squat in, eat a vegetable, and drink some water to remind your organs what it feels like.

Vent about it a lil bit. But girl, only a lil bit. We don’t want to hear about it a month later. Look, you are entitled to feel how you’re feeling and you have every right in the world to bitch when something goes wrong (it’s a religious experience for me) but when it’s time to let it go, let it go. Your friends, coworkers, siblings don’t want to hear about it until kingdom come. Seriously.

Get some HALP. I’ve said this before and I’ll say it til I die, get some help. Get some therapy. There’s literally no reason in the world to be ashamed about talking through your issues with a licensed therapist. I can understand being uncomfortable to open up, but if you don’t do it at some point, all the things you’re holding in are going to fester inside you. Gross.

I love going to therapy, I always feel great after I leave. There’s no better hype man that someone who can give you advice and/or encouragement about your life than someone who isn’t affected in any way whatsoever by the decisions you make. They’re going to be honest and upfront with you because whatever choice you make doesn’t affect their life at all, they have a clearer image of what’s happening and the most logical choice to make about it. Don’t be too proud for it either, we all broken enough to be humble, honeybun!

Okay, but what if it’s a change that you’re chasing? A change that you are welcoming with arms wide open, then what?

Well, once again in the words of my dear sweet mama, shit or get off the pot.

Be proactive about it! A small step is still a step forward. Figure out any little thing you can do to get the ball rolling.

Focus on what you want more than you focus on the fear of wanting it. If you put all your time into “what if this doesn’t work out” then how will you ever be able to think about what’s going to happen if it does work out? Because it just might. Sometimes you’re waging war with yourself about staying positive, it is hard, but it is possible.

Check yourself, before you wreck yourself. I’m not playing, get your priorities in check before it’s too late. If you bust your ass now, it’ll pay off later. True facts.

So I think I’ll end this little holiday blog post with some touching little comments. I know a lot of you are tired. You’re tired of trying and not seeing results, you’re tired of the endless “no’s” instead of being told “yes”, you’re just tired of being tired. You’re preaching to the choir with that one. But keep pushing forward.

I hope you all get what you’re searching for, I hope you all get what you’re trying for. And I’ll say a quick little prayer that you all the success you’re hoping for and that you delete your ex's number.

Catch y’all on the flippity flip.